Reasons to Divorce Your Husband
Many wives divorce their husbands for "mental cruelty" or neglect.
- 1 Characteristics of a Verbally Abusive Husband
- 2 Power Imbalance in Marriage
- 3 Effects of Verbal & Emotional Abuse in a Marriage
- 4 Income Disparity in Relationships
Although wives divorce their husbands because of adultery, abuse or criminal behavior, in most cases the reasons are far less serious, such as neglect and irreconcilable differences. In some cases, obtaining a divorce is a life-saving measure for wives and in others, the reasons are more like excuses to get out of a marriage.
Physical or Emotional Abuse
Many wives who are the victims of physical abuse will eventually divorce their husbands. In this situation, obtaining a divorce may be a life-saving measure. Also, an abusive husband may also abuse his children, making it imperative that the children be separated from him. Also, a husband can abuse his wife emotionally in various ways. He may try to control everything she does by constantly checking on her, or he may be harshly critical of her looks, intelligence or behavior.
The most common reason women divorce their husbands is "mental cruelty." What this usually means, however, is that husbands are indifferent, uncommunicative and demonstrate other forms of neglect. Neglect can mean physical or emotional neglect. Women may complain that their husbands are insensitive and do not care about their feelings. In situations when long separations occur because of a husband’s career responsibilities or other commitments, wives may feel abandoned and seek divorce.
Adultery is the betrayal that many wives cannot forgive. Not only is the loss of trust in a spouse devastating, but catching a sexually transmitted disease can be life-threatening. On the other hand, it may be the wife who has an affair and wants to leave her husband to marry another man.
Addictions such as alcohol, drug or gambling cause major problems within a marriage. A husband who cannot control his addiction may destroy the peace of a home, often causing a wife to seek divorce to protect herself and her children.
Arguing over Money
The inability to agree on how to spend income leads to the breakup of many marriages. A wife may leave her husband if she believes he is financially irresponsible because she wants more financial stability. In another situation, a wife may want more financial freedom because her husband controls all the finances.
Incompatibility may be sexual or emotional. Wives may be unhappy with their sex lives, believing their husbands to be over- or undersexed. In other cases, wives find that they have little in common with their husbands and therefore have little to talk about or few activities that they both enjoy. This situation usually leads to the common reason for divorce known as irreconcilable differences.
Is Your Husband Depressed and Wants a Divorce?
“My husband is depressed and wants a divorce.” Women say this across Canada every day. It might surprise you to know some figures suggest that divorce rates are actually declining, but those figures can be deceiving.
One of the reasons the divorce rate is down is because marriage itself is becoming less common. Over the past 20 years, common-law unions are becoming more popular, as are single-parent families.
The real truth is that from 2010 to 2011, almost 54,000 new divorce cases were initiated in Canada, with the proportion of marriages ending in divorce slighted at about 41% in 2008, up from 36% in 1998.
Why is divorce happening “more” often
One of the reasons may be that the Divorce Act, first established in 1968, was revised in 1987 to reduce the necessary separation period required by the courts to obtain divorce from three years to one year. This makes divorce easier, and thus, it may be happening more often.
Why is your husband depressed and wanting a divorce?
It’s been shown that men take divorce harder than women and are more likely to be depressed because of it. If your husband is threatening divorce, it may be that he’s depressed and thinks that your “bad” marriage is causing the depression when the reality is that he’s depressed for some other reason.
If that’s the case, it may be possible to save your marriage, instead of agreeing to your husband’s request for divorce. It’s always a good idea to get legal expertise on divorce if your husband is threatening.
Is your husband depressed for another reason?
Midlife crisis, alcohol or substance abuse, mood disorders or another mental health issue, trauma, job loss, or even children leaving the family nest to strike out on their own can cause depression in men.
While women’s depression is well documented, depression in men is less so — and men’s depression symptoms may manifest differently than they do for women.
Symptoms of depression in men
- Difficulty focusing on or remembering things
- Substance or alcohol abuse
- Inappropriate outbursts of anger
- Feeling guilty or worthless
- Loss of libido
What can you do if your husband is depressed and wants a divorce?
If you’ve tried to help your husband with his depression and he still wants a divorce, it may be time to do just that. Even though divorce will always be a dramatic time no matter what you do, it can be made easier with professional services. Choosing mediation instead of litigation, for example, can make the process less stressful. If you are in a common-law relationship and not a marriage, you need legal expertise on your side to determine how you will divide assets, share property, and make child custody arrangements if applicable.
If the divorce is unavoidable, our Newmarket divorce lawyers or Orillia family lawyers are here to help you through this trying time. Please contact us for any questions and support that you may need.
About Brian Galbraith
Brian Galbraith is the owner and founder of Galbraith Family Law Professional Corporation. Brian is known in the legal community for his commitment to efficiently practicing family law using technology and streamlining the divorce processes.